How to Meet a Guy When You're a Single Mom Over 40
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I am at the beginning stages of being a single mother of twins, not going to lie, I have moments of looking forward to dating again and moments of do I really want to. I think the odds of her finding a man closer to her age that has never been married or has no children and may want them will be more difficult. I have dated, intermittently, but then I found myself wanting to compartmentalize and keep kids separate from whom I was dating if it got beyond the first date.
Once he was in our house he realised this was what he wanted. I am dating one right now who has a 5 and 9 year old.
How to Meet a Guy When You're a Single Mom Over 40 - From my experience I would caution single moms to see dating as a way to fill the empty place of the man of the house.
I am 34 years old, divorced four years. I was married for ten years, have four beautiful boys under 9 and have a very fulfilling and successful career. My life is happy, but I really would love to share it with someone… but dating when you have FOUR kids is like the Mt Everest of the dating world! It seems almost impossible for men to see past that. I have an outgoing personality and seem to be asked out a lot… we usually go on a few dates, everything is going wonderful… but nobody ever COMMITS. I am SICK of feeling used. I am sick of being treated like a piece of ass, and treated like I must be desperate because I have kids. Even if I really take my time getting to know someone before we become intimate… it seems that sex is all they continue to want. Do I need to be a nun in order to find someone who can actually see a relationship with me? Is it unreasonable that I am hoping someone could take me seriously or see my worth? I believe I have a lot to offer — I am caring, kind, warm, loyal and intelligent. There is more to me than a MILF. I am not looking for a father for the boys; they have one. I am not looking for a provider; I provide very well for myself. I just want a friend and a companion and someone who I have chemistry and intellectual compatibility with. I am seriously at the point of giving up on the whole dating thing… Is it too much of an ask that I could actually meet someone who can see me as a woman, and not just as mother or worse, a bit of bedroom fun? Should I just shelve my desire to find a partner? Ironically- I write Romantic Comedies for a living. Having four kids under the age of 9 is a huge handicap. I got married at 35 and had kids at 37 and 39 and I was ahead of most of my friends. At risk of making myself look bad, I once dated a single mom of a two-year-old. She was smart, she was sexy, she was financially independent — and she had no time to give to me. In fact, it had nothing to do with me. You should just find a guy who is looking for a Brady Bunch family, who sees sex as the icing on the cake instead of the cake itself. Maybe your ex shares custody and gives you weekends off, but I think we can all agree that women with four kids have less available time than women without four kids. And if the greatest gift a woman can give a man is her time, who are men going to gravitate towards — the harried mom who has to manage four lunches, babysitters, soccer practice, and bedtime routines — or the one who is blissfully unencumbered by such essential responsibilities? So instead of giving up on the whole thing — which, as you know — is incredibly shortsighted, given that you have 50 more years on this earth, how about you change focus? You should just find a guy who is looking for a Brady Bunch family, who sees sex as the icing on the cake instead of the cake itself. I know because I see what men ask for online. A lot of men my age over 55, have young children. It is shocking to me. So I stay away from that for the same reasons that men stay away from women with children.. That said, you are right, there are a few men out there that want to blend a family. I have read profiles of men I want to contact but am stopped because they state they prefer women with children. That is like urging someone to settle which no-one should do. Christina, I am in a similar position although just the one child and it is probably more the resigned vibe you are giving off or maybe you are looking too hard. A woman would take on a guy with 4 kids and hopefully the world will one day change so that the same is true vice versa. I mean, go for the men you want, but anyone who sees dating someone in the same boat as her as settling will likely struggle due to her lack of awareness. Not saying that is the case here, but it often appears that way. Pointing out how things are unfair and what needs to change so that the dating world can be fair is a ridiculous waste of time. Evan is holding up a mirror so that she can see what her situation looks like from the other side. You are suggesting that she cross her fingers and hope real hard and not change anything that she is doing. How exactly is opening up to guys that will be more excepting of her situation sacrificing herself and who she is??? One kid is not FOUR. You cannot compare your situation. That said, Her children are not an appendage — but, SHE chose to have a big family and for whatever reason, got divorced. No, she does not have the same chances that a single woman or one with 1 kids has. I am a women who is 33, no kids, never married and I can say that I would not take on a man with 4 kids because at the end of the day how on earth could we enjoy a relationship with such different priorities, however, if I had 3 boys of my own yes that is different. She and I are together at least 3 days each week, sometimes more. I love my little girl more than anything or anyone else. I have never let her see the couple of women that I briefly dated. Guess what, your right. Our life style is not their problem. Even other single parents have a difficult time dating other single parents. I get together with friends and other parents with children to keep everyone engaged and ensure my daughter has positive impressions at an early age. Made our own beds, now we parent up and own it! Men, of which I am, are similar to lions. It is what it is. The kind you are attracted to, can respect, and who are, at least on the surface, fighting the instinctual urge to populate his and only his DNA…. Ala the male lion killing Cubs and reimpregnatimg the females…. Life is a brutal, dirty game. Ever seen a mother chimp watch as her child is torn from her arms and beaten against the ground by a male chimp? We have our own expectations and needs. We are not appliances, and neither are you. Not everyone gets someone. Other people are born without skin, or genatalia…. But 4…it is a lot for me as a childless woman to wrap my head around. By no means does she have to follow his advice. And by no means does she HAVE to limit herself to what Evan suggests. But what does she have to lose if she begins to include the type of guys that Evan suggests into her searches? You sound like an intelligent person with a lot going for her, and I hope you find what you are looking for. Part of the fun of that fantasy is finding the right woman to settle down with, getting to know her, building a relationship and having experiences together with just the 2 of you , and then eventually reaching the point where the decision is made to start a family. In your particular case, a man who has a relationship with you is immediately getting the whole package all at once. There is just too much responsibility involved, right from the outset and, again, most men mature into child-rearing responsibility over time and do not want it thrust upon themselves quickly. Having said that, I totally agree with Evan. Are there men who would see you as you wish to be seen, and value you for the person you are? Your lack of success in finding a quality man is likely related to the type of man you are searching for. Best of luck in whichever path you choose. The point is when you see a single mom who you do respect as a mother, who has her life together, you are getting the real deal. With single moms you get a preview into what domestic life wound be like. How is her home? How are her kids? So yes — being a young mom, scared of the future, raising a child alone because 99% of the time baby daddy runs out on them, sleep deprived, hormonal, trying to hold down a job? The women who hook up with these men knowing they abandoned their kids? They are no better. Cook a meal once in a while or offer to babysit so she can get some time to herself. If you can show one of these women that you want to help and truly care about the future of her and her kids you would see a big change for the better in their personality. I work with women like this, and I used to have the same false impression that you did until I went out of my way to help them out. This is something that all of us have to deal with when dating. However, hoping for the world to change one day is a futile strategy. I agree with this 100%. Rightly or wrongly, most young cute single guys will consider single mothers for sex only unfortunately. Why would they take on such huge responsibility if they could find someone else without that responsibility? Why would they take on such huge responsibility if they could find someone else without that responsibility? And those guys would also seek women much more likely to bear them their own biological children. Single Moms and Dads need to look at the big picture here. They might need love but at the end of the day the kids should be their number priority and joy. Some experts actually believe its best not to even date when you have young children. My Mom and Dad divorced when I was 10. To this day I love and respect her for that. Let me end this on a bright note. My Mom found the love of her life in her early forties when my brother and I were all grown up. They are together and happy to this day 22 years now. Be patient and always put your children first they will love you for that when they are adults. I would also suggest just putting any serious dating aside for awhile, like a few years at least. My two kids were 7 and 9 when I got divorced. I put all thoughts of dating and men aside for almost 7 years. I focused on just my own family, raising the boys, building my career, and becoming completely content with being alone. It was the best thing I did for me and my kids. Once I did start dating, I found the selection of men to be so much better. And my family was more ready to bring someone new in, and so was Ii. Dating should be a fun adventure! I was married for almost 18 years and we divorced. Well, I wanted to be married again. We dated for 2 years, but then he ended it. I think it was because I had too many obligations. Like you, I could take care of myself and my kids, plus their father was apart of their lives. I then met Mr. Right on a blind date. He was 9 years older than I was. He lived 1500 miles away from me and we engaged in a long distance relationship for 1 year. We are now happily married. I have 4 kids and he has 2. Do not give up; the right man is out there. He oved to my hometown and we are great and with my 4 kids. Someone is out there. Not every man just want sex. I got divorced at 37, and did do the dating thing — and have never gotten re-married. I stopped at my first, and wanted to give it a break — but you just kept them coming. Same as you, right? Or did you know in advance that you and the father of your two kids would someday divorce, and you decided to go ahead and make babies anyway? My point is this: who are you to judge the choices she made? Are you OK with being similarly judged by other women who chose partners, had children with them, and are still married? Perhaps take a page from his book? She has a point to an extent. Most men will tell you that in their 20s, most women bypassed very good men to date and marry bad boys. It seems that at this age, women care more about excitement than they do stability. I agree however that the tone does not have to be harsh. Your focus should be on your children, not dating or finding love. But I then have to ask: why so you need a partner? My first husband had one child, and I happily filled the role of step mother, and over 30 years later, he my step son and I stay loosely in touch. I adore my step son! But I think that is rather an exception to the rule, rather than the rule itself. However, there is no way I would have ever taken on four! Especially with the the typical Dad having a typical full time, or overtime job. When I met him, only the middle daughter lived with him, now his very troubled 15 year old lad lives FT with him as his ex wife booted out her own son onto the streets…. The issues we faced I faced trying to deal with living with an instant and adolescent family under one roof. We were together nearly 4 yaers on and off and even got engaged.. BUT his obligations to his children came first and with minimal support from my then partner regarding helping me to manage living with a teenager, eventually became our undoing. So the upside for me? Is that I never want to date a man with children! I just saw him as trying to buy their love and the money he was throwing at his kids, I was left to have to manage and pay for us to all live together in my house from my wage he brought no major assets with him other than a couple of cars …All I ever wanted from him was for both of us to be on the same page…. Im back to dating now BUT Ive got my witts about me now regarding men with kids…. I wont not go out with them, but will be really scrutinizing their relationship as Im sure not all fathers are over indulgent, emotionally guilty parents. The message he is telling me is 1 He is too busy for a relationship. Cristina was married at 20, which is ridiculously early. I think she is better off dating men who are in their 40s and are divorced and already have children, like 1 or 2. I think the odds of her finding a man closer to her age that has never been married or has no children and may want them will be more difficult. While there is this labelling, men will continue to see females who happen to have a past as damaged goods. Christina may be mother but she is also an individual and an individual subject to the laws of attraction like anyone else. If she happens to prefer guys younger than her, no amount of telling her to look for someone older is going to change what she really wants and likes. I am totally realistic. I am a single man and want children of my own. If I am going to spend decades of my life caring for children why would that be children of some other mans, when there are plenty of single non-mothers who I can respect, shower with love and have my own children with? No guy should follow his partners ex. But, at the same time, you should do things intelligently, or at least no the risks of your actions and choices. Sadly, most of us do not put any thought into the risks and consequences of our actions, and then when things turn out badly for us, we act like victims. Ask yourself, who is likely to have a problem with your children? A younger guy with no kids? Or a guy with kids, and I will say younger, same age or older? As for patience, you have to take a close look at the what Evan has posted about making your decisions about these things.. Many women start reporting increasing difficulty getting dates once they pass 30, and feel invisible by 50. In short, in this case, patience is not a virtue. You are going to wake up one day and find that the best guys are taken, or no longer interested in you. The world will no longer be your oyster. Having no plan is planning to fail. You are the one in charge of what you do. You decide who you will date and spend time with. You decide when YOU wish to pursue something serious with, and whom YOU will pursue it with. They decide who they will use for sex, and who they will actually fall in love with. They choose who they will actually marry, so long as the other person also wants it. They have their own agenda which is not yours. Time is on their side, not yours. When I was in my twenties, I had maybe 3 dates a year. When I was 30 and newly single, I could go out with 3 men A WEEK. Women over 30 are not worthless, or unattractive or whatever BS MRA types want to put out. I actually agree with Evan though. As a childless woman, I tried dating single dads, the kind who shared 50% custody. I always came second, I always became resentful and many of them felt they were finished having children. I think there are plenty of single dads in their 30s I know, I dated them but I would also push her towards dating a bit older. Not 50 year old men but men in their early-mid 40s. That info you quoted is not my info, that was info I got here. I do not think 30 something women are worthless, nor do I think 40 or 50 something women are worthless. For me, it is actually just the opposite. Weirdly, I am getting most of the attention from 20 and 30 somethings. I find her to be extremely attractive. The 27 year old Brazilian ex-model is the same religion as me. As a Brazilian Adventist, she has very very strong beliefs about marriage. So while I am not putting much stock in it, if it did happen, that strong belief would allow me to not worry that she saw it as a short term solution. Same for a 37 yo Filipino nurse from Vancouver Canada. Very strong beliefs regarding marriage. Yet my preference is the 41 year old Brazilian who is a devout Protestant Christian, but not a devout Protestant Christian Adventist. She is, in my opinion, just as attractive as the other two. And now, a very cute, single blond that lives on my floor was flirting with me in a major way last night. She has become increasingly open and flirty. Without, she looks younger. Last night, as I was approaching the building, I rounded the corner a block away from it, and immediately caught site of her with her dog. She the dog was obviously done, but the girl waited for me to walk up to her and we exchanged greetings. He dog is very shy and timid with everyone. I made note that I would need to win her love with treats, and quickly detailed doing so with a friends two dogs that did not like anyone. I told her how he was amused on one hand but kept calling them traitors as they followed me around and loved on me. She smiled and told me to bring treats to her apartment and her dog would definitely be a traitor. She invited me to her apartment. Is it flattering to find a young twenty something attracted to me? Absolutely, and I would expect anyone to feel the same. But, I am also realistic. I seriously doubt she would want marriage, or even a LTR. At most, I would expect her to want a FWB relationship until she finds a more suitable LTR. I understand why the 27 and 37 year old Adventists are interested. Both come from cultures where women regularly marry, by choice, men 10 to 20 years older. Also, being Adventists, it is like dating in a small town. The one that lives on my floor likely sees it as nothing more than a chance for companionship and sexual adventure with an older man to break up this dry spell. As for the OP, her problem by her description seems to be her kids, not her age or her looks. However, the reality is this. The only older men that do really well dating have lots of money and well-preserved looks. The rest face the same dilemma as older women. If the average woman preferred much older men, they would not need coaxing by EMK or anyone else to consider older men. Men do not age better. It is just many women will overlook appearance in favor of other qualities. And if the man is much older, it is looks and financial security. And since most women can at least feed and house themselves, they expect physical attraction. Which is why men have to start taking a reality check early on. I have seen this first hand. As for the OP, I think her children come first. A relationship may be a nice fantasy, but probably not the best idea.. You, like all women seem to wear it as a badge of honor that you care about more things. You are simply more picky, more critical, etc.. The OKcupid results showed that women are actually more critical of looks, but yes, since they are also critical of other things, they will give guys a chance that they find less attractive than their preference. This is slowly changing as women become more and more financially independent. It was the centuries of needing to rely on men for safety and security that caused these other preferences. That need is disappearing. As polyamory becomes more acceptable, I see things changing in a very negative way. I know I would not want to live in it. I think it is going to be a very ugly very selfish society. There certainly are young women who despise older people. She is, however, likely to become a Cougar in her older years, if her attitude remains this way. She will then get her comeuppance. While I am sure she will get some young men giving her what she wants, she will also get exactly what she is giving out. She will ask a young man to dance, or try to flirt with him, and he will make it plain to her that he thinks she is a creepy Cougar. She might even go through her best years trying to attract a younger man only to strike out in this endeavor, only t find herself in a position, when she is 40 plus, where the only men serious about dating her are ten years older. However, you could question her about the guy. In that age your choices are multiple, why consider someone twice older? While age disparate couples do marry, similar aged couples are far more common, and generally the norm. This insistence you have that women accept MUCH older men or else, is just bizarre. And I am sorry, but just because a woman does not find MUCH older man attractive, has no correlation that she is repulsed by older women. It is just a scare tactic on women. BTW, I do think the OP should be more open-minded if she is serious about finding someone for the long-term. It is her life, of course, but I believe the children come first. Maybe you should clean your glasses and reread my posts? I said that was one option. What I said in a nutshell is that this women, if we believe her self description, was at one time, a woman who could have had her pick in men. She has four kids. That makes her less than appealing for the vast majority of men, even men she would have never considered an option. It has nothing to do with fairness; there is nothing fair about the dating world. As I said, she has options, but only she can determine if those options are something she is willing to accept. I also do not hold the opinion that women MUST accept much older men. Nor do I hold the opinion that women MUST refuse to date younger men. The opinion I do hold is that because men DO prefer younger women, and because men are more than willing to enter into sexual relationships with women they would never dream of marrying, that a woman who refuses to date older men, and only date younger men, is playing against the odds. I simply agree with Evan that while young, both men and women should get more serious about their LTR priorities. Too many people act as if they have forever to find the right person. I think we also agree that it is up to each individual, what they do, but it helps if you are realistic in your choices. So it is the same for a man. Going to hold out for a Playboy Playmate? I was assuming the OP was interested in men her own age group. But when someone insists women should consider older men, I assume they mean MUCH older, since a few years older is the norm. Women absolutely need to realize that having another mans child makes them far less attractive to attractive men their age with options! This is just reality! My best advice would be to stop dating and focus on giving your undivided attention to your children. This time is so precious. Invest in yourself and your kids. Pursue hobbies you enjoy. Turn the phones and computers off and read a big thick book together, exercise, bake a pie, and start saving money if at all possible. Your kids are going to be grown and gone in a few very short years, and you may have to support yourself for the rest of your life. There will ALWAYS be single, divorced, widowed people out there — always. I know so many men and women who would rather cut their legs off, than be on their own for any period of time. The ones who desperately feel compelled to be in another relationship, will typically experience a repeat of the same unhealthy situation they had the first, second, third time. Do yourself and your kids a favor — focus on showing them how you are a WHOLE person and a WHOLE, in tact family just the way you are. Kids are very aware which parent put them first, and which parent made their sex life the top priority. Not saying this is you, but forcing kids to share their parent with the current lover is not fair to them. Someone mentioned the Brady Bunch. In reality, the blended family thing is the worst for kids, especially at middle school age. The thing about the Brady Bunch is Mike and Carol evidently never had to deal with six custody schedules because their exes were mysteriously missing, and Alice did all the cooking and cleaning. Who knows, if you put the stress of dating on the back burner, you could meet Mr. Wonderful at the ballgame this weekend! Mature men call you when the sun is shining and ask to spend quality time with you, because they truly want to get to know you. The guy who thinks this is too much effort, is the wrong guy. Good guys want to help you, not use you. Perhaps God is supposed to orchestrate the meeting at the right place and time, when He knows both people are ready for a healthy love. Especially that she actually can date, but raise the bar for the guys. Be right up front that there will be no sex now or in the near future. Seriously…she should say that. A guy asks her out.. What he does or does know about her past relationships is of no consequence. He must deal with who she is now, not who she was. If a few dates later, he ties to negotiate it into a sexual relationship, she should simply be firm but pleasant. No real feeling to it. Sex is so much better when it involves love. Is sex all you are really after? This is where she again just hits him with brutal honesty but does so in a pleasant and disarming way. She does not have to be strong here. She can be vulnerable. It actually works better that way. She simply lets him know that the problem is that guys are all to willing to give the illusion that a relationship is building…take the sex, and then when it starts to actually resemble a real relationship, they disappear. So she will no longer have sex with a man that is not worth that gift. She can basically say that the pain of being used outweighs the good feelings that sex brings. Again, soft, truthful vulnerability is in my opinion the best way to discuss this. It forces him to see her as a real person with real emotions, and real vulnerabilities. In my opinion, only the worst kind of man could still push for sex after she has this talk in this manner. He will likely say something to the effect that she is a sweet person but she has too many kids for him. So the inevitable happens before she invests more of herself by having sex with him. The problem with the letter writes is, in my opinion, not that she runs into players, but that there are objective reasons why men in her desired age group would not want to spend much effort on growing this relationship. Whichever way she phrases her attitude about nsi sex, there is no way to negotiate with a man to overlook the responsibilities she would have as a single mother of four kids. End of the world! Thankfully Evan is splashing the cold water on our face to wake us up. She wants the 8, 9 or 10, who also has all these other great qualities. Even the not so hot guy would be giving up a lot. I am blessed with 3 amazing daughters and from now on my focus is to be the best mother i can be. Time is so short and precious. The greatest gift we give to each other, as human beings, in dating and relationship, is our time, and our undivided attention. If you want to be at home at night, at the time to put your kids to bed, read fairy tales, and give them sweet good night kisses, you simply can not be available to be spending more and more time with a potential boyfriend, and have spontaneous magical nights together. You probably know that in order to have a full life balancing family and career etc you need to be extremely well organized, and have schedules for everything, including for example for dates two evenings per week. But that last thing would be very difficult to arrange with someone in the early stages of a relationship, because people prefer to get to know each other little by little and in a spontaneous rather than in a strictly planned manner. Evan is right that an older man who already has children and knows first hand about the responsibilities that come with them, can be understanding to your situation, and sympathetic to the need to plan dates in a manner that will kill all spontaneity. However, even older men with children will have little sympathy to your unavailability and to the fact that he and his needs will always come second after your kids. As a personal note, if I were in your situation, I would be rather having uncommitted sex with men in my age group, rather than looking for a SERIOUS relationship with an older man. I would postpone the serious relationship for when my kids grow up a older teenage may be? Just my two cents. Its very easy for us women to develop high physical and sexual expectations of men because obtaining sex is so easy for us.. Its a big disappointment when the same kind of guys are no where to be seen when we require a little commitment. Btw, how come some of u can display avatars?? Take a very sexy mother of 4, and she will likely complain that men only want sex from her. I think that women, are in the end very confused. They have been lied to by society and their friends about the reality of not only men, but also the dating market. As Evan and others have pointed out over the years, women are the gatekeepers of sex and men are the gatekeepers of commitment. Guys are sexually attracted to a wide variety of women. While women consider the top 20% of men sexually desirable, men consider the top 60% of women sexually desirable. So yes, you women can VERY, VERY, easily get hot guys into bed. This is NO great accomplishment for any woman. But the problem, is that only a guy that is of a similar attraction level to her will COMMIT to her. But because a woman who is a 6 can get a 9 into bed, she thinks she can get a 9 to commit to her which is not the case. Getting a man into bed for a woman, is about as much effort as it takes for me to introduce myself to a beautiful woman and become her friend. Nearly no effort at all. I completely understand it though and am now happily hooked to a man 8 years my senior with 2 kids if his own. Please make these comment boxes more mobile friendly! Good advice shows people how to make that unfairness work in their favor. Most people men and women prefer to date younger. It was also worth dating them, because it opened up additional opportunities. Evan wanted a wife who was several years younger than him and Jewish, and liberal. He ended up marrying someone who was a few years older than him and Catholic, and conservative. There were trade-offs that accompanied that decision, but he ended up with a great wife because of it. I wanted a woman around my age. I ended up dating women who ranged from 11 years younger to 16 years older. I married the woman who is 16 years older, and I ended up with a great wife because of it. At the time the video was taken, I was 40, my wife was 56. Does my wife look unattractive? Does my wife look 56? She just has to find some that she thinks are attractive. With a sex partner, I just needed to like her for a day or so. With a girlfriend, I needed to like her for several month or more. With my wife, I need to like her for the rest of our lives. Of the people who want sex with you, only a small percentage will want a serious relationship. Dating with four young kids is harder. If you let yourself get easily frustrated, then your best strategy is to avoid dating. Hmmm, might be nice for a while, but would definitely get old. Life is full of choices. I agree with Evan as pretty much always , she needs to broaden her spectrum and choose older men to date. A man who has children of his own and knows the terrain. The other reason I have stopped looking is because, frankly dating is far too full of preconceptions and madness and I am far happier. I actually think online dating has ruined everything as it has led to far more choice and people disposing of people far more readily. Clearly a lot of entrenched views and unconscious bias on this thread so just want to finish off my contribution that has appeared to have exorcised so many by wishing Christina the best of luck in the future and hope that you get the relationship YOU want. I still agree with Evan that an older guy who has his own kids would probably be a pleasant surprise in terms of being a better match. Dating as a single parent is not for the faint of heart. I have dated, intermittently, but then I found myself wanting to compartmentalize and keep kids separate from whom I was dating if it got beyond the first date. I have found it a good time in my life to do some of the things I did not do before I became a wife and mother, like go back to school. Only to tell her that while no, dating is by no means fair, there are different but just as good options worth considering in dating or outside of dating. You stopped dating so the OP should as well. She just wants to find a commitment-oriented man. What part of my take do you disagree with? Do you think that — based on what Cristina wrote — she wants to take the next 15 years off of love like Brenda? Or that she might want to find a like-minded family man who happens to also be divorced? And I am pretty sure that there is no man who will go near that drama. The most important job I have ever done and will ever do is bringing up members of the next generation. Men will come and go and without little consequence. But doing my due diligence as a parent has ramifications for generations. I have never been in such a lovely relationship. I feel secure, cherished, and happy every day. I never stopped reading your books, and checked up on myself often. I can only thank you and the women of the Inner Circle. In less than one year, I met my fiancé online! And, I wanted to feel the same about him. I have never felt so relaxed around him, he knows this and wants to spend more time with me. I realized that I needed to find the man who would love me unconditionally for who I am, not for who he wanted me to be.
Should I Marry a Divorced Mom?
I feel like it has now become a competition of whose way is the best way. I liked with this woman who is 43 never married and never had children. My kids get a confident and loving mom all week and on the between a lot of young men get a ruthless lovemaking machine that can teach them what to do. Maybe not for you tho. I want to know if i should carry on with the relationship or should i just keep my distance. I know who am, and what I la. Sorry, maybe that was too harsh. I was married for almost 18 years and we divorced.
